Loss is something we will all inevitably experience at some point in our lives. We all lose little possessions like our clothes, phones, keys and many other things in life, but nothing quite compares to losing a loved one. It’s a different type of loss; one in which we all suffer differently from, each as individuals. Some adults find it hard to comprehend, so for children understandably it can be a very difficult situation.

We like to help parents overcome certain aspects in the life of parenthood that they may be unsure of how to deal with – and this subject is often one that can be tricky. It’s hard enough if a much loved family pet dies, let alone a family member. Studies have shown that it can be very tough helping your child through the stages of grieving and sometimes parents find it hard to handle the situation, as more often than not, they too, will be grieving.

The difficulty lies within the child understanding, or in most cases, not understanding. Frustration can often build up and usually a sense of anger or betrayal has significantly been proven to follow after. In this blog, we have gathered together a few strategies that may help you and your child along the path.

Put Emotion Into Words

It’s important to speak to your child, no matter how hard or upsetting it may seem. Often people attempt to hide their grieving so that the child won’t notice, when in fact it’s good to show emotion. Show that you care also; allow your child to understand that it’s okay to be upset. Death is something that is natural and inevitable. It’s something that unfortunately will crop up a lot in life and the better the understanding of the matter, the easier it is to deal with it.

Honesty is key in these situations; open the door for questions, as they will have many. Imply the message of comfort and encouragement; it is important to try to allow your little ones to comprehend that there is no correct way to feel. Emotions are good. When it comes to grieving, there is no right or wrong, and as individuals we all deal with things differently.



Help To Say Goodbye

Often a funeral can be seen as damaging to the child, when in fact it can be quiet the opposite. Give your kids the choice of whether to attend or not, and beforehand try to explain everything that will happen throughout the day.

The funeral is a way for grieving family and friends to say their final goodbyes. It’s a great opportunity for everyone to get together, and share stories and memories to help each other through. It’s a time to celebrate your loved one’s achievements in life, so find your own words of explaining it in as comforting a way as possible.

Sometimes your child will not wish to attend the funeral, or you might feel they really are too young. Instead you could do something at home to remember and celebrate the memories of the person. Cook their favourite meal, walk around the village they lived in, or simply look through old photos.

Cherubs Portrait

Loss is difficult and painful but it does not always have to be sad. Create a memory box with lots of photos and items of the loved one. This way you and your child can look back into the box at any time and always have a place for them.